The Secret to Ending a Marital Argument Quickly

Works for us 100% of the time.

Twenty-five years of marriage have taught me no matter how much you love each other, disagreements and fights are a part of the deal.

Usually, little progress is made through arguing. Rarely does one convince the other they are wrong.

God has shown us another approach which we’ve found to be effective in defusing the strong emotions. For us, it’s worked 100% of the time. We wish we had figured this out many years ago.

Drum roll please…..

Hold hands and pray.

What? That’s it? Sounds too simple.

Why does this effectively help melt the anger quickly?

1. Together, we humble ourselves and submit to a higher power.

Through this simple act, we are both in agreement that we’ve chosen God to be the head of our relationship and this argument.

We’ve just walked onto common ground instead of standing on two separate islands.

2. We change the objective.

We are no longer disagreeing about a subject. We are agreeing on a way to find a solution. We pray to the one to whom we are both accountable.

3. We must come closer to each other to hold hands.

Holding hands has been shown to have a positive impact on our physiology and psychological well-being. It fosters a sense of closeness and connection, promoting security, reducing stress, and building trust.

4. We bow our heads to pray.

We are now holding the same position physically and in our hearts. Together, we are admitting we need His help and guidance and submitting to Him.

This helps us to remember we are all on the same team: God – Husband - Wife

With prayer, we are making these requests:

• Soften our hard hearts and take away our anger

• Help us be open and listen to the other person's view

• Help us to forgive or give us wisdom to resolve the conflict (whichever is applicable)

This method could be used for dating couples as well.

If the other person refuses to participate, there is still value in humbling yourself before God and asking for guidance.

The act of prayer doesn’t automatically make both parties agree on a solution. It helps you find the answer in a more productive and effective way.

I challenge you to try this method the next time anger rears its ugly head in your relationship.