3 Things Needed When You're Resolving Conflict

Ever notice it's easier to solve someone else's problems?

For most of my career, my job description included mediating employee conflicts. I learned the skill of sitting two people down and working through a problem.

I have found it is much easier to solve someone else’s problems than my own.

We can see someone else’s faults so clearly and yet completely miss our own.

Colossians 3:12 reveals some of the attributes Christians are to possess.

These characteristics are essential when dealing with conflict.

“So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience;”
Colossians 3:12 (NASB 1995)

Have Compassion:

Jesus modeled this in His ministry. He cared when others were suffering. He provided for many who were desperate and in need.

He saw directly into people’s souls. He felt deeply for others, knowing how much they needed Him.

Even in disagreement, we can remember God loves the person on the other side of the conflict just as much as He loves us.

Be Humble:

Acting out of humility, we put others first. In conflict, our focus is often on how right we are and how wrong the other person must be.

Humility means your goal isn’t to elevate yourself above others but to work out the conflict with the relationship intact while never compromising your beliefs.

Have Patience:

Why is it so hard to show others the same patience we desire for ourselves?

We appreciate when someone cares enough to be patient with our shortcomings. We should give the same gift to others who need our understanding.

Working through our issues with others can be a stressful process, but reaching a solution brings peace and reconciliation.

“ If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.”
Romans 12:18 (NKJV)

If you are currently dealing with a conflict in your life, ask the Lord to help you resolve the matter in a way that honors Him.